From Average to Extraordinary – The Potentialism Mindset

Men who want to live extraordinary lives will need to build self-discipline. It will help them stop wasting time on things that don’t matter, or aren’t moving them forward towards their long-term goals.

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Be your own best friend

You’ve heard the saying, “Treat others how you’d like to be treated.” It’s a good rule to live by. But how often do we actually put that into action? Becoming your own best friend is one of the most powerful and rewarding things you can do.

Quality friends meet your needs—emotionally, spiritually, physically—and they help you see the good and the bad in yourself. They can be cheerleaders or they can tell you the harsh but healthy truth. And they can encourage you to be your best when everything around you seems bleak.

A great way to be your own best friend is to treat yourself the same way you would a close friend. Take some time for yourself each day to reflect and meditate. Spend some quality time on a hobby, read a book, or enjoy your favorite meal. Give yourself a break when you need it, and be there for yourself when you are having a hard time.

When you are your own best friend, you are more supportive of those around you as well. I have noticed that people who truly love and support themselves are kinder to their friends, relatives, and coworkers. They don’t have that same sense of neediness that can sometimes be exhibited by those who are only concerned with themselves and their own issues.

Becoming your own best friend is a lifelong process, but if you commit to it and make it a priority, you will be able to find happiness and success that is unparalleled in today’s gnat-brained culture. Learn how to maximize your amazing potential in this empowering and insightful guide by Cici Castelli. Order your copy today!

Be your own worst enemy

When you’re your own worst enemy, it can feel like there is a dark force inside of you that wishes to undermine your success. This inner enemy may take on the form of a negative self-talk, self-sabotage or negative beliefs about yourself. It can be easy to get sucked in by this dark force, but you can catch it in the act and learn to stop beating yourself up.

If you’re experiencing a lot of negative self-talk, try writing down what it is that keeps repeating itself to you. Then ask yourself, “Is this helping me grow?” If the answer is no, then you need to start getting rid of these self-sabotaging thoughts.

A growth mindset is about embracing your flaws and weaknesses. It’s also about valuing effort and seeing success as a result of persistence. This is one of the most empowering ways to approach life, but it doesn’t happen overnight. It takes courage to check in with your own internal voice and to recognize when you’re behaving as your own worst enemy.

As the old saying goes, keep your friends close and your enemies closer. This is especially true when it comes to your own limiting beliefs and the ways in which you sabotage yourself. Self-defeating beliefs can be powerful, but they’re a huge barrier to achieving your full potential. This is why it’s so important to take a daily look at your own negative internal dialogue and decide what needs to change.

Be your own biggest fan

As the new year begins, it’s natural to look inward and to reflect on what needs to change. This introspection often sparks a desire to create a “new you.” Fortunately, the commercial world takes note of this and sends its best salesmen your way, offering diet plans, gym memberships, financial planning apps-you name it.

However, the real journey to becoming your own biggest fan is one that requires self-awareness and a commitment to holding yourself to a higher standard than others may do. It means being able to lovingly call yourself out when you’re selling yourself short, going back to bad habits, or limiting yourself.

It also means believing in yourself and your abilities, the same way you believe in someone whose success you admire. It’s about valuing your compassion, your worldliness, your strengths, weaknesses, and failures. It’s about giving yourself the support and encouragement you would give a close friend, so that you can move forward with confidence.

Mediocrity is the common enemy of anyone who wants to be extraordinary. Mediocrity means being average, run-of-the-mill, or plain. It’s what holds us back from unlocking our potential to be the greatest version of ourselves.

To overcome mediocrity, you must commit to doing whatever it takes. It might mean putting in the 10,000 hours Malcolm Gladwell talks about in Outliers, or it could be as simple as choosing to be the rare person who stands up for what they believe in. It might be as challenging as deciding to not have a Plan B when it comes to following your dreams and taking risks for the sake of being extraordinary. It might mean committing to being the best in the arena of your choice, as my client and NFL legend Bo Eason explains it in his book There’s No Plan-B for Your A-Game.

Be your own biggest challenge

If you have a growth mindset, then you know that the challenges you meet on your journey to unlocking your potential don’t just come from outside – they are the challenges you give yourself. Research shows that people who have a growth mindset are more resilient to setbacks, persistent, and willing to take risks than those with a fixed mindset, even if they don’t succeed as quickly or easily. This can be applied to any challenge that arises in your life – be it a big exam, a difficult conversation with a loved one, or even the seemingly insignificant task of going for a run when you’re feeling tired and unmotivated.

When you challenge yourself, your brain is stimulated and requires your full attention to complete the task at hand. This is why you feel more alive when overcoming challenging situations in life – it gives you a sense of accomplishment. It also makes you more resilient to the sabotage from your inner critic and allows you to step into the power of your own potential.

Whether you’re trying to improve your grade in school, find the perfect job, or start a new hobby, you will have setbacks. The key to avoiding the trap of a fixed mindset is to embrace your setbacks and view them as learning experiences. This can be done by looking at what you can learn from your experience, how you could improve in the future, and finding inspiration from others. The top athletes in their field are able to successfully perform under pressure because they have a strong understanding of how to manage their mindset during difficult times.

You may not appreciate the cheesy challenge-based motivational posters that line your walls, but they can be helpful in inspiring you to challenge yourself. No matter what kind of challenge you face, it can be a game-changer for your happiness and success.

Be your own biggest success

According to Potentialism Theory, having the right mindset is essential to unlocking your potential and fast-tracking your success. A positive mindset cultivates a belief that challenges can be overcome and problems solved, and it enables you to learn from impediments and failures in the process. This perspective propels you forward and drives you to take risks that push you beyond your comfort zone. It also enables you to focus more deeply on the tasks at hand, resulting in greater productivity and progress towards your goals.

A growth mindset is important because it allows you to recognize and appreciate your own strengths. It also helps you to let go of the need for external validation. Trying to prove that you are worthy or lovable by seeking approval actually restricts growth and can contribute to perfectionism. Instead, you can use the power of your imagination to envision the best version of yourself, and work towards that future.

One of the biggest obstacles in life is that there are many people who doubt your abilities and won’t believe that you can achieve what you want. They can be hard on you, but they shouldn’t be able to stop you from moving forward with your dreams.

According to psychologist Carol Dweck, who coined the term “growth mindset,” your mindset determines a large portion of your achievement and potential. She says that you can either believe that your intelligence is fixed, and unchangeable (a fixed mindset), or that it can be developed through hard work and dedication (a growth mindset). Your beliefs influence your behavior and your entire worldview. In fact, your mindset is more influential than your IQ. It can be difficult to change the way that you think, but it is absolutely possible to shift from a fixed to a growth mindset.